fighting to stay married

there must be a 100 books written on how to have a happy marriage and raise your children.  And they are all wrong because the only worthwhile knowledge is for the person who wrote the book-for himself(her) and one child.  Children don't come with an owner's manual, so we do the best we can, hopefully adding improvements from the way you were raise;   or, sometimes it is best just to wipe the slate clean and start fresh, especially if you came from an abusive household. I know that some of my ancestors were big on capital punishment; a childhood friend's dad was a barber and the belt was not used just to sharpen his straight razor; so it would be wrong of him to find ways of improving the belt's use.  As I said, sometimes better to just start fresh and a good way is to have a family proclamation, one that is based on gospel principles.  If you recall, Jesus drove the Jewish ruling class nuts because they followed a strict Moses's Law of an eye for an eye.  Next:  what every relationship needs to know how to do: and that is how to fight. Fairly. All couples are going to have disagreements and some can make or break a marriage.  But if both of you agree 100% of the time on %100 of everything, it would really take all the flavor of bringing two people living together.  Don't take this the wrong way: men and women are not equal, they are different-so they can complement each other and grow in equality.Who of us want to marry ourselves? Boring.  More, later.